The Silent Tears of Polygamy by Robin Johnson

Author:Robin Johnson
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Robin Johnson
Published: 2016-03-25T04:00:00+00:00

Ball of Confusion?

I have an Egyptian male friend who is a very kind and nice person. His name is Ahmad. He is a livery driver. I met him one day while I was getting gas in my SUV, and he was getting gas in a limo. He was single and didn’t have any family here in the US. He was quite new here, so I tried to help him as best that I could to get him acclimated to a new lifestyle here in the States.

He and I communicated mostly by way of telephone, and he would sometimes stop by my office at work to say hello and to chat periodically. He was supposed to be my wali for Alec and my wedding being that my wali Ali refused to come to the wedding.

Ali had refused to attend the wedding and reception, because he didn’t approve of my marriage to Alec. Ahmad was late arriving for Alec and my wedding ceremony, and we proceeded without him. Ahmad did make it to our wedding reception the following evening.

One day, I randomly asked Ahmad if he knew of any men who engaged in polygamy and, if so, what they said it was like. He was candid with me, and said that the men whom he knew who were polygamous were tired all the time. He said, they weren’t just physically tired. They were tired of giving away all their money to the wives as well.

When Alec got home, I mentioned to him what Ahmad had said. I asked Alec if he thought there was any validity in what Ahmad had said in comparison to his own life. Alec said that a part of it was true for him. He said that he was mentally tired, but not physically tired from living polygamy.

I didn’t push for him to elaborate. Would he admit to it, if he was physically tired as well? Would he admit that the sex was wearing him ragged and dragging him down, if it was? I doubt he would tell me. I don’t think it would be a very macho thing for most men to do. We know how men are about their masculinity.

I get curious about him and Carolyn quite often. I, however, have learned to restrain myself when it comes to talking about the two of them. I wonder how Alec maintains his sanity. I can’t take away from him that he is a strong man. It’s admirable how he has held up for so long in a lifestyle that has him torn between two women who hate each other’s guts. He has two masters and is the master of none.

Every now and again, Alec tells me that he has no one to talk with about his life of living in a polygamous marriage. I imagine that it’s a heavy-laden burden for him sometimes to have no one to share his feelings and thoughts with.

Alec wanted to discuss it with me. He wanted to talk with me about Carolyn and our lives.

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